As an adult, as a woman getting ready to marry the greatest love of her life this is actually a tough question only because I’ve changed. As a girl, a much younger girl, I would not have had the best answer. I think that in a romantic relationship what would have attracted me would be simple, the guy that paid me attention. I had a very unhealthy relationship with myself. I just wanted to feel needed. Read – daddy issues. Sometimes a young person cannot distinguish between lust and love. Sometimes we want to believe there is something greater in another person than is really there.
I think initial attraction is physical and it’s part of nature. We all have certain things we are attracted to. Blonde hair, brown eyes, tall, short, etc.
But love what attracts and creates real true love well I can tell you the things about my fiancé that I finally as a healthy adult, fell in love with are: his sense of humor, the way he wants to take care of me and our family, and most importantly I fell in love with him for who I am when I’m with him and that is me. He lets me be me everyday. He never expects more from me then I can give. He encourages and supports me and even calls me out when I’m being ridiculous, I mean can you believe I could be ridiculous? And all of this brings me to the “real” meaning of finding the one, the way I feel when I’m with him and what I’m most attracted to about him, can only be described as coming home.