Hopes for my blog


This is the face of a “real” girl. Today is the final 30 day challenge post. I’m actually sitting in bed not feeling well as I write this post. My health has been a super struggle for this whole year so far. But I’m trying to think about my blog and its future. My personal future is pretty set and exciting. I’m getting married to the love of my life. We are a new family. But what is the future of this blog? This blog is a baby but a baby with 100 posts. I still can’t believe that! I have gained followers by doing this challenge and learning more about posting effectively for followership. But in the future of my blog it’s not just the followers and the likes that I’m hoping for. It’s that my words make a difference for someone. Obviously my brain and what I enjoy will be heavy in my post. Hello food posts and makeup posts and wedding planning posts. These are the things that are filling my world now. But as that world grows and expands I hope that my blog will grow with me. Sometimes I can be serious. I have suffered with weight issues and health issues and depression issues. There are things I would love to share so someone else doesn’t feel alone. I’m pretty opinionated about some things and would love to start sharing that more. My last post on my confession probably was my least read post which I found interesting but I also didn’t find it discouraging. My voice will be there for the right ear at the right time and I’m absolutely certain that I have nothing to do with that other than being myself and doing what feels right for me and my blog. Will there be silly content? Yes! Will there be serious content? Yes! Will there be things you like and things you don’t? Yes! But most of all you will be reading real thoughts and real issues from a real girl that doesn’t mind being a little basic and a lot caring! I hope you stick around for the ride. And if there’s a topic you are interested in I haven’t touched on yet please drop a line or comment below I would be happy to right a post for you! 🙂 

Love 

Becky 

Confessions 

Today’s post a next to the last post in this 30 day challenge is supposed to be a confession. So there are lots of little quirks I could share with you. I’m obsessed with cook books and coffee mugs. Something on my body hurts almost every day. As I write this I’m having horrible stomach pain. But here’s the one I think you should know. I’m a little old fashioned. I’m not a huge fan of the women’s lib movement. I think burning bras was a waste of time. I don’t think men and women are equal and I think that’s a good thing. We are different and special in our own ways and I think that’s how it is supposed to be. Yes women can come from a more emotional place than men in some cases and you know what? That’s ok! I think that moms should be able to take care of their children and raise them the best they can and if they choose to work that’s great but if they choose to stay home with their kids that should be ok too! Women’s liberation somehow became about women being each other’s worst enemy. We are so mean to each other. We judge each other. Did you breast feed, do you spank, do you make your own baby food, do you let your child have soda, do you let your child watch tv? These are the things women judge each other on. Not to mention if you stay home you eat bonbons all day or if you go to work someone else is raising your child. All of this drives me crazy! Women’s liberation should have been about the freedom of choice and the support we should all give each other regardless of what choices we make. What’s right for me, may not be right for you and vice versa. So my confession to you is that I believe in my heart that in many ways women’s liberation has hurt our country, it has hurt women, it has hurt families. But I also believe women have to make choices for themselves. There are so many choices!!! 


 And yes if my fiancĂ© came to me tomorrow and said when we get married you aren’t working anymore I would give him a giant kiss and spend the rest of my life gladly cooking his meals and ironing his shirts. It doesn’t mean I’m not capable of more and I wouldn’t find ways to use my brain to better myself and our family (hello blog/writing) but it does mean I wouldn’t be offended by taking on that role that was once a traditional one and is now somehow frowned upon. What are your thoughts? Or better yet, do you have a confession to share? 

Love 

Becky 

Most Embarrassing Moment 

I’m not one to be embarrassed. It would take a lot to make me blush even. Now let me tell you something else about me. I think that girls shouldn’t burp or poot in front of anyone. Save that for your private time in the restroom. 


Found this on the Internet http://www.us.kohler.com I could spend all the time in this room. 

I like to keep the mystery. I have a fiancĂ© and a son. I like to be ladylike. Sorry I’m sure that’s not a popular opinion anymore but it’s what I believe.

Anyway the subject of this post is most embarrassing moment and I had a doozy. Well at least for me. Do I have your attention? 


One afternoon when me and my fiancĂ© had been dating about a year and we were sitting on the couch just hanging out. He saw something funny on YouTube and had to share it with me. Then he proceeded to talk in a funny voice and just generally make me laugh! He does this a lot. 


Any who right about mid laugh something horrible happened! I pooted! 


I thought I was gonna die! I was mortified. Now my man being the amazing person that he is started laughing. I mean really laughing. And then I laughed some more. He said he had been waiting for me to poot for so long and if making me laugh caused it. He couldn’t be happier. And it was funny!


So yes I’ll keep finding alone time for bodily functions. As funny as they may be. And hopefully he’ll keep making me laugh anyway! 

Love 

Becky 

What’s In My Closet

I always thought closets were boring. And I’ll be honest mine is usually a mess. I have really good intentions but the reality usually kicks me in the butt! I get running late or can’t find something I want and it’s over! 


My little shoe corner is the worst. 

But this now this is exciting. 


What could this little plastic dresser hold? Well my makeup of course! 

First drawer is foundation, powders, moisturizers, etc. 


Second drawer is blushes and eyeshadows, mascara, eyeliners, etc. 


The next two drawers are random leftover stuff and my nail polish and lipsticks. 

Yes I have a ton of makeup bags and I love them all and yes that one bag does say Mrs. Affleck because I was the biggest Ben Affleck fan and I still am! He’s just the cutest. 


So my closet isn’t interesting but my excessive makeup collection is! What’s hidden in your closet? Have a fabulous weekend all! 

Love 

Becky 

Hidden Talent


So yeah that pic has nothing to do with today’s post but I had to! I mean really people! I daily can’t even! Now onto the talent portion of our program. 

I’m pretty sure there’s nothing about me that’s hidden. I don’t have a ton of talents. Maybe cooking could be hidden because you all get pics and recipes but don’t get to taste it. I’m pretty detailed when planning events. And most of my friends would consider me something of a wordsmith. I can make almost anything “sound” better. 
To be honest I don’t think we should hide our talents. I think the talents we were given should be shared. Each talent is a gift to you for you to give to someone else. My favorite gifts to share would definitely be crocheting and cooking. I love to make things for people that I care about like scarves, blankets and of course food. Searching for recipes for someone’s favorite food and and then making them  for family and friends makes me so happy. 

So what talents do you have that you should share with the world? 

Love 

Becky 

Biggest Regret 

I try not to have regrets. I try to be up front and honest with myself about my intentions. I also try to accept the decisions I have made and move forward with my life. But I also believe that regrets are something that can just happen in our minds. 

If I stop and really think about my life and regrets, the biggest thing I would want to change would be, making sure that I was spending more time with my son when he was growing up. 

It was just me and him so obviously I was there. I was as present as I thought I could be at the time. But I worked a lot and I was tired a lot. 


I didn’t play with him enough. I didn’t make sure he was succeeding like I should have. I think about being at his football practices and I would be working on my homework for college and taking work phone calls because I thought I had to. 


If I could do it all over I would start when he was born and treasure every moment even more then I did at the time. There would have been trips to the zoo, the park, maybe a farm. I would go back and find a way to put all the memories and special moments in his path so that as he grew his heart would always feel my presence. 


I can only pray that he knows I thought I was doing the right thing when I went to school at night or worked two jobs. I was trying to better myself for him. I know that good came from all of the sacrifice but I sure missed a lot too. 

So now I’m going to give my kid a huge hug and a kiss and drink some wine! 

Remember regrets or wanting to do something differently will enter your mind. Face it and move on. Don’t live in regret. Live in the now and make decisions for the place you are now. 

Love 

Becky 

What attracts you, in love? 

As an adult, as a woman getting ready to marry the greatest love of her life this is actually a tough question only because I’ve changed. As a girl, a much younger girl, I would not have had the best answer. I think that in a romantic relationship what would have attracted me would be simple, the guy that paid me attention. I had a very unhealthy relationship with myself. I just wanted to feel needed. Read – daddy issues. Sometimes a young person cannot distinguish between lust and love. Sometimes we want to believe there is something greater in another person than is really there. 

I think initial attraction is physical and it’s part of nature. We all have certain things we are attracted to. Blonde hair, brown eyes, tall, short, etc.

But love what attracts and creates real true love well I can tell you the things about my fiancĂ© that I finally as a healthy adult, fell in love with are: his sense of humor, the way he wants to take care of me and our family, and most importantly I fell in love with him for who I am when I’m with him and that is me. He lets me be me everyday. He never expects more from me then I can give. He encourages and supports me and even calls me out when I’m being ridiculous, I mean can you believe I could be ridiculous? And all of this brings me to the “real” meaning of finding the one, the way I feel when I’m with him and what I’m most attracted to about him, can only be described as coming home. 

Love 

Becky